Somethings not working

Maybe you're having the same argument on repeat. Maybe one of you has shut down and the other is desperately trying to reach them. Maybe things are mostly fine but there's a distance between you that neither of you knows how to close.

Couples therapy isn't about finding out who's right. It's about understanding what's actually happening between you — and finding a way through it together.

Two powerful approaches, working together

I work with couples using two complementary models:

Intimacy from the Inside Out (IFIO) was developed by Toni Herbine-Blank as an extension of IFS into couples work. It brings each person's inner world into the room helping you understand what's driving your reactions, speak from a more grounded place, and hear each other differently.

Relational Life Therapy (RLT), developed by Terry Real, is direct, practical, and doesn't shy away from hard truths. It looks at the relational patterns we learned growing up often without realising it and how they play out in our closest relationships. RLT helps couples move out of what Terry calls "losing strategies" and into something more honest, more connected, and more sustainable.

Together, IFIO and RLT work at both the inner and the between your internal world and the space between you as a couple.

What we actually do in sessions

Couples therapy with me is active and relational not just two people talking at each other while I take notes.

We'll slow things down, look at the patterns, and I'll help you both understand what's happening beneath the surface of your arguments or silences. I'll be warm but direct I won't just reflect things back indefinitely. Sometimes you need someone to name what's going on.

Sessions are online via Zoom or in person in central Stroud, Gloucestershire.

Who this works well for

I work with all kinds of couples. A lot of the people I see are wired differently from each other — one neurodivergent, one not, or both — and that difference is often part of what we're working with. IFIO and RLT both hold that really well.

Couples therapy can help with:

Recurring conflict and communication breakdown
Emotional distance or disconnection
Trust repair after an affair or betrayal
Navigating big life transitions together
Neurodivergent and neurotypical relationship dynamics
Feeling more like housemates than partners

About Natasha

I'm a UKCP-certified psychotherapist and IFIO couples therapist, currently on the RLT certification track. I bring a warm, direct, and sometimes irreverent style to my work — and I'm genuinely fascinated by what happens in the space between people.

I also identify as neurodivergent (AuDHD), and I understand from the inside how differently two people can experience the same moment.