I am a fully qualified and insured UKCP Integrative Psychotherapist and also a registered Counsellor.
I offer full hour, weekly, confidential therapy sessions in a private, comfortable, central Stroud practice. I work short or long term with clients.
My therapeutic approach is grounded in relational integration theories which maintain that people have choice, freedom, responsibility and the potential for self-actualisation. My work draws mainly from Transactional Analysis, Gestalt and person-centred approaches, all of whom see people being born ‘OK’.
The bedrock of my therapy is empathy and attunement, with my role being mainly to help you become who you are meant to be. I like to work with body process/phenomenology and pay attention to brain science and neuropsychotherapy. I also offer neurofeedback, including a brainwave activity analysis, to my psychotherapy clients. Neurofeedback helps regulate the brain, and psychotherapy helps the mind and heart. It’s a good combination if you’d like to try it; you’d like a brainwave analysis please do ask.
I provide a safe, confidential environment to help you explore a range of life issues.
The issues that lead people to seek therapy may be general or specific and could include:
Searching for ways to understand yourself better and gain more fulfillment in life, you may be feeling overwhelmed, stuck, confused…
Experiencing stress or anxiety related to work or home life.
Recovery from addiction to drugs, alcohol, food, sex and codependency
Struggling with issues relating to relationships
You may realise that your patterns are holding you back and therapy can help get some perspective on this, and to find more supportive ways of being
Having difficulty adjusting to traumatic life events, including bereavement or loss, physical injury and ageing.
Boarding school ‘survival’ and learning to thrive
Whilst the therapy is all about you and what you want to bring to talk about, I would like you to know that the experience I offer is not ‘blank screen’.
If you’d like to meet me, you will come to my home… it’s definitely not perfect and you will quickly get a good idea of who I am and how I live my life: you might meet one of my cats, you might see childrens’ and adults’ shoes on the shoe rack…. I like the idea that therapy is about delving into the messier and imperfect, more difficult parts of ourselves and my therapy room and the way I am might encourage you to explore this rather than just talking about it in a more minimalist neutral environment. I encourage dialogue between the two of us, believing that our ‘relationship’ may mirror some of our relationships out in the world and being real and authentic is a valuable part of that for me.
Very unusually for a psychotherapist I’ve written an autobiographical chapter in a book ‘Finding Our Way Home’; each chapter is a woman’s account of her time at boarding school and how the experience shaped her life. In it I talk about my own troubled upbringing, of living with family addiction, my difficult teenage years and then the challenges I have experienced as an adult. Life has continued on since I wrote the chapter too! I thought long and hard about whether to use a pseudonym and made the conscious decision to be myself. Clients will know much more about their therapist than is usual but this is consciously offered. If I can help others with my account, fantastic. If this works for you to have a therapist like me, let’s talk!
Finally, and very importantly, the content of our sessions is confidential to you and me. Whilst I'm slightly unconventional in many ways this is an absolute for me. I work with a supervisor who focuses on my work with you, to give you a better experience. If something emerges for me in our session I process it with another therapist, you are not mentioned by name or any identifying details. I occasionally write in journals or speak at conferences about my work, and write social media posts, which would not include any identifying details. I will make sure I have your permission to do this. There are also exceptional circumstances where there is a risk to yourself or to others when I might break confidentiality, but even in this situation, I would try to involve you in any decision to breach confidentiality. I abide by the Code of Ethics in Professional Practice of the Welsh Psychotherapy Partnership, which is consistent with the standards set by the United Kingdom Council for Psychotherapy.